Man are from Mars, Woman are from Venus

Man are from Mars, Woman are from Venus

Haha, well its actually a book Larry lent to me which he lent from his friend. Its a self-help book. On how to communicate and understand each other in a relationship. Well, the author is probably enlightened thru countless relationships? Hahaha...but what he wrote was so true and in detail. I recommend this book for anyone who plans to go into a r/s.

Being alone for almost half a week, while others is enjoying, having fun and making merry, but thats okay. I started to read this book. Im now at chapter four. How to motivate the opposite sex. I just want to share some paragraphs with my dear readers.

"Men are motivated and empowered when they feel needed. When a man does not feel needed in a relationship, he gradually becomes passive and less energized; with each passing day he has less to give the relationship. On the other hand, when he feels trusted to do his best to fulfll her needs and appreciated for his efforts, he is empowered and has more to give.

Women are motivated and empowered when they feel cherished. When a woman does not feel cherished in a relationship she gradually becomes compulsively responsible and exhausted from giving too much. On the other hand, when she feels cared for and respected, she is fulfilled and has more to give as well."

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To become motivated again, a man needs to feel appreciated, trusted and accepted.

Not to be needed is a slow death for a man.
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"When Opposites attract, many woman instinctively understand how to give an impression saying "we need you. your power and strength can bring us great full fill filling a void deep within our being. Together we could find great happiness". This is the motivation that empowered the Martians (Men).

In the beginning of a relationship, a woman gives a man a brief look that says you could be the one to make her happy In this subtle way she actually initiates their relationship. This look encourages him to come closer. It empoweres him to overcome his fears of having a relationship. Unfortunately, once they are in a relationship, and as problems begin to emerge, she doesn't know how important that message still is to him and neglects to send it."

"Through sharing her feelings, she begins to remember that she is worthy of love and that her needs will be fulfilled. Doubt and mistrust melt away. Her tendency to be compulsive relaxes as she remembers that she is worthy of love. She doesn't have to earn it; she can relax, give less, and receive more. She deserves it."

Well..this is what i feel is kind of meaningful for both parties. As a continue to read, i'll slowly add bit by bit. Hopefully, it will give you all some understanding and allow me to remember as i am typing it out ^^ I shall add a 'Self-Help' Tag if you guys need it! =)